Although every dog has unique traits that I love about them individually, I really click with the shy dogs who have been through a lot. I'll admit, shy dogs are my favorite, so this will likely be the first in a series on the shy dogs that come through our home.
For example, our newest foster boy Luke, has not had a great life. He is terrified of the leash's pressure, new dogs, new people, quick movements, loud noises, etc. One of the key concepts during his training will be his free will.
Too often, I will see dogs in the pet store who are clearly uncomfortable around new people being forced to accept a stranger's touch. I know these owners are trying to help their dog by showing them that new people aren't a threat, but they are inadvertently teaching their dog that they have no say. That is learned helplessness.
Dogs should have the option to walk away or not approach at all. By letting the dog control who touches them, for how long, and when, you'll have a more confident dog in the end. This doesn't mean you shouldn't help your dog push against some of their comfort zones with encouragement. Pushing against comfort zones is an important part of training, but should be done in small increments in other areas.
Even our more extroverted dogs sometimes walk away. Maybe they just aren't comfortable with a certain person or are tired that day and would rather lie down; and that's okay. If a person forced you into a hug and wouldn't let you back up, would you be more comfortable around them the next time you saw them? Probably not.
Just like people, dogs appreciate being able to overcome fears at a slower pace. Having people toss a treat or a favorite toy for shy dogs encourages them without forcing them. They can ignore the treats, approach to take the treat then walk away, or stay back a bit when playing. The next time they see that person, they are more likely to wag their tail.
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